Why You May Never End up with Soulmates?
Relationship experts often argue that persistent efforts and nourishing the relationship to its best can attain soul-binding. But the harsh reality is, — in spite of all the heart and dedication, relationships often painfully break apart with a silent scream.
Mostly it happens because the partners lose interest in each other over time. This comes quickly to some couples while others remain optimistic for a little longer. Only a tiny fraction of the population find partners, who nourish each other happily for a much longer time-span. In that case, where it might seem that they have perfected the art of living with each other, they are often termed “soulmates.”
Hypothetically, a soulmate is a perfect partner. Often termed as “The other half” or the “Twin flames”, there is curiosity and desire embedded in everyone’s heart for being accompanied by someone so perfect.
Every human being is different and has their simplexity. By no means, a person can align with one another so perfectly that there no misunderstandings can pertain between them. Furthermore, there isn’t a proven calculation or criteria for determining someone as a soulmate.
There are several instances that more a couple is fantasized as perfect; bigger is the breach formed between them.
But it seems that we already have theories for predicting it, and probability suggests that it can be believed somehow.
Psychologically, it is suggested that when two persons have similar interests, similar physical and mental needs and have a natural affinity for living together, they are soulmates.
More precisely, Psychology believes that being with a soulmate gives
- the gut feeling that you have found the right one.
- the feeling of being surprisingly familiar to one another although you meet a while ago
- a mutualistic opinion for matters of life even when both of you have different ongoing circumstances
- communication and resonance with each other by senses like eyes, gestures, speaking tone, subconscious calls, and all other non-verbal means
Apart from the ones stated above when two lovers are in a mutual agreement in matters of life and they can be more productive and confident when together, it is also considered a good signal that the alignment is soulful.
Expanding the horizons of human psychology and compatibility, astrology has its firm grounds to explain the virtue of happenings. Believe it or not, Psychology can be better understood with astrology.
Astrology doesn’t provide many definitions to soulmates, but rather makes calculations based on its principles. At its core, astrology believes that everything in the cosmos is influenced by one another, and the energies from the planets that surround us influence our thoughts and happenings.
Scaling down to the logic of soulmates based on astrology, it is the best possible compatibility.
A mathematical system of compatibility calculation between two individuals as per Vedic astrology is called “Ashtakuta” (Sanskrit: Ashta-koota — Eight Factors). It has 36 points to match to each other to become perfectly compatible.
The 36 points are broadly categorized into the compatibility points based on eight major factors namely the personal ego, mental compatibility, sexual affinity, dominance in a relationship, persistence for the longevity of bond, tolerance, temperament, and genetic/reproductive ability.
Usually, a relationship with 18 points match is considered a favorable one. But we are talking about soulmates. Thus, significant compatibility of ~30 or more only is to be considered. Although higher compatibility doesn’t guarantee that the pair will find everlasting blissfulness, it is the only mathematical indicator in predicting the natural affinity between two persons.
The calculations based on all the astrologically different pairs/partners show that out of 1296 couples combination, only 64 of them earn enough compatibility points to be called as soulmates. This implies roughly 4.9% of the couples in the world are likely to meet and live with their soulmates. That’s good news. You certainly could be one of them.
But the bad news is, there is a whole 95% chance that you won’t ever wind up with your soulmate.
In reality, many other factors or influences conclude the fate of bonds. The compatibility calculations alone cannot be held accountable for someone to be your twin-flame. However, Ashtakoota is among the principal theories and its predictability can be barely denied.
Astrology might be the only resource for theorizing on someone’s possibility to be your soulmate for now. But it takes a lifetime for someone to learn whether or not you might have ended up with your true love. Other the other hand, astrology answers the same within a few seconds. But as it is always said — “Nothing is perfect”, there are flaws and misconceptions that could corrupt the results of this ages-old pseudo-scientific approach.
Concluding, we all share an affectionate bond of love with our partners. We accept each other’s flaws and have the soft corners of our hearts reserved for the ones we love. It is what makes our life beautiful.
A soul mate is not found. A soul mate is recognized. — Vironika Tugaleva